Non-Monogamy

Here are six tips to help you bring up the topic of non-monogamy with your partner…and avoid a fight.

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Are you home alone while your partner is out on a date? Here are 3 tips to help you navigate through the loneliness and jealousy.

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It’s is time to challenge the traditional relationship construct that has been handed to us, and instead, consciously co-design a relationship that aligns with our evolving needs, values, and desires.

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You may be trying to design your non-monogamous relationship(s) based on what you know about monogamy. Here are three things to consider when designing relationships that are only limited by consent and your imagination.

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Foundational steps to help you open up an existing relationship or begin an open relationship with a new partner.

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I would never have thought I would be planning on co-caring for a puppy with my partner’s wife, that my lover’s lover would end up being one of my best friends - a source of healing and comfort.

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Challenges are never-ending for non-monogamous relationships, but how you handle them doesn’t have to be complicated.

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Practicing and exploring non-monogamy can feel akin to living as a left-handed person in a right-handed person’s world; let us be your pair of ambidextrous scissors.

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Most of us conjure up images of violence, chaos and apocalyptic disarray when we hear the word anarchy. Relationship Anarchy is the polar opposite.

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The idealized scenario portrayed throughout polyamory literature is that everyone is friends, but it’s also true that there is also no right way to connect (or not) with your metamours.

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When it comes to relationships: who are you and what do you want; how does your past impact your present; how do you communicate your desires and needs?

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Society and most cultures tell us to expect competition, threat, conflict, hurt and heartbreak when two people love the same person. But that isn’t always the case.

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Within the non-monogamous community men, women, and everyone in-between have been able to find acceptance, understanding, and curious exploration.

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How do you handle the curiosity, questions, and personalities that come with this non-traditional version of “the talk”?

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Keep these three c’s in mind when considering non-monogamy: communication, community, and confidence.

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There is an infinite number of ways to individually tailor your needs while exploring the many relationship designs - the first step is to find your design.

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What is couple privilege? How does it differ from hierarchy in relationships? How does it affect relationships? How can we design our relationships with privilege and hierarchy in mind?

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with nationally recognized sex therapist and the author of She Comes First and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex, Dr. Ian Kerner.

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton to talk about her research on jealousy specifically with non-monogamous relationships in mind.

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Marie Thouin about her research on compersion. Dr. Thouin shares the factors that promote or get in the way of nurturing feeling joy for your partner’s joy.

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with LGBTQ rights lawyer and advocate, Diana Adams, about the very real concerns non-traditional individuals and families should have about their rights within the United States.

What happens to a relationship after there is betrayal? Is it possible to rebuild after trust is destroyed? Can infidelity exist within a non-monogamous relationship?

Effy and Jacqueline speak to Karolyn who shares her experience of approaching her husband to discuss what non-monogamy might look like in the context of their existing relationship.

Effy and Jacqueline explore the difference between rules, agreements, boundaries, and promises - and answer the question “If not fidelity, then what?”

Effy and Jacqueline sit down with a live panel to hear their diverse stories and to discuss coming out as non-monogamous.

Effy and Jacqueline lead this lively discussion where Foxes shared from the heart as always. Unlike our usual panel discussion, we tried out a different format where we held a discussion group focusing on hierarchy in open and polyamorous relationships.

Effy and Jacqueline discuss making new connections in the world of polyamory and open relationships when it comes to dating with a brave Fox, Ben, who had a very interesting story to tell.

Metamour is the term used to describe the partner of one’s partner. While you may not have a romantic or loving relationship with your metamour(s), they can play an important role in your life. Whether you want to build a strong friendship with your metamour(s) or just want to be sure that your needs do not get sidelined as a result of your metamour(s), navigating through this unique relationship is an important part of consensual non-monogamy.

Effy draws out stories of how people moved from established rules that protected them, to establishing freedom that liberated them in the spirit of joy and compersion from a diverse set of Foxes on this live panel.

First coined by Andie Nordgren, RA has roots in political ideology and calls for relationships not to be bound by rules aside from what the people involved mutually agree upon. It rejects a formal distinction between sexual, romantic, or platonic relationships. So what does that look like day to day?

People change. Relationships change. How can you navigate through those changes in a way that honors everyone involved? How can you and your partner(s) create an environment that supports evolution and growth? From monogamous to open, a couple to a triad, a partner to solo poly, to conscious uncoupling - what can you learn from other people’s experiences around transition?