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More Money, More Partners - More Problems?
More Money, More Partners - More Problems?

Does the idea of talking money in your partnerships trigger a stress response? You're not alone, but financial planning is a part of any relationship design. Come along as we explore some strategies to simplify this difficult conversation.

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The Key to Communication Starts with Knowledge of Self
The Key to Communication Starts with Knowledge of Self

How many times have you heard that the key to a happy and healthy relationship is communication? The real question is “what is communication?”

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Ep 141: Sex Therapy, Sexual Disfunction and Porn Addiction with Dr. Ian Kerner
Ep 141: Sex Therapy, Sexual Disfunction and Porn Addiction with Dr. Ian Kerner

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with nationally recognized sex therapist and the author of She Comes First and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex, Dr. Ian Kerner.

Ep 127: Sex Misinformation Crisis with Sophia Smith Galer
Ep 127: Sex Misinformation Crisis with Sophia Smith Galer

Effy and Jacqueline chat with multi-award-winning reporter and the author of Losing It: Sex Education for the 21st Century, Sophia Smith Galer about prevailing sex myths; how to bust those myths through educating ourselves, and what can we do about changing the culture so the information out there is scientifically accurate and focuses as much on pleasure as sexual health, pregnancy and rape reduction.

Ep 125: Fox Tales: I Came Out To My Partner As Trans with Bear & Fifi
Ep 125: Fox Tales: I Came Out To My Partner As Trans with Bear & Fifi

This week we will hear the story of Bear and Fifi. A few years into their relationship, after slowly taking down their walls to lean into love and trust, Bear revealed to Fifi that he is transgender and that he wanted to go through the process of transitioning.

Ep 123: Relationship Math and the Equal Division of Labor
Ep 123: Relationship Math and the Equal Division of Labor

What does it mean to put effort into relationships? Does one person always show up more than the other? Is relationship maths as simple as 50+50 makes 100%?

Ep 120: Queer Pleasure, Storytelling, and Sexual Liberation with Dr. Jaime Grant
Ep 120: Queer Pleasure, Storytelling, and Sexual Liberation with Dr. Jaime Grant

Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Jaime Grant about how stories of pleasure, delight, satisfaction, and discovery are equally effective within the work towards LGBTQ+ justice - and even more so because they keep us focused on the world we are trying to create.

Ep 19: Nonviolent Communication in the Time of Covid-19 with Dr Clara Moisello
Ep 19: Nonviolent Communication in the Time of Covid-19 with Dr Clara Moisello

Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Clara Moisello about the fundamentals of non-violent communication, the distinction between needs and strategies, the importance of giving voice to our feelings, and creating room for self-empathy.

Ep 17: Initiating The Conversation About Non-monogamy with Karolyn Ramos
Ep 17: Initiating The Conversation About Non-monogamy with Karolyn Ramos

Effy and Jacqueline speak to Karolyn who shares her experience of approaching her husband to discuss what non-monogamy might look like in the context of their existing relationship.

 

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Non-Monogamy

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Bringing Up Non-Monogamy With Your Partner
Bringing Up Non-Monogamy With Your Partner

Here are six tips to help you bring up the topic of non-monogamy with your partner…and avoid a fight.

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3 Tips to Combat Loneliness While Your Partner is Out
3 Tips to Combat Loneliness While Your Partner is Out

Are you home alone while your partner is out on a date? Here are 3 tips to help you navigate through the loneliness and jealousy.

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Six Steps to Designing Your Open Relationship
Six Steps to Designing Your Open Relationship

It’s is time to challenge the traditional relationship construct that has been handed to us, and instead, consciously co-design a relationship that aligns with our evolving needs, values, and desires.

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How to Embrace Duality: And, Not Or
How to Embrace Duality: And, Not Or

You may be trying to design your non-monogamous relationship(s) based on what you know about monogamy. Here are three things to consider when designing relationships that are only limited by consent and your imagination.

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I Couldn’t Have Known Then What I Know Now
I Couldn’t Have Known Then What I Know Now

When you first open up your relationship there is so much unknown. These are three lessons learned after a bumpy start to a new adventure.

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4 Principles for Thriving in Open Relationships
4 Principles for Thriving in Open Relationships

Foundational steps to help you open up an existing relationship or begin an open relationship with a new partner.

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Metamour: My Lover’s Lover
Metamour: My Lover’s Lover

I would never have thought I would be planning on co-caring for a puppy with my partner’s wife, that my lover’s lover would end up being one of my best friends - a source of healing and comfort.

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Is Non-Monogamy For Me?
Is Non-Monogamy For Me?

Challenges are never-ending for non-monogamous relationships, but how you handle them doesn’t have to be complicated.

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Coming Out as Non-Monogamous: What to Consider
Coming Out as Non-Monogamous: What to Consider

Practicing and exploring non-monogamy can feel akin to living as a left-handed person in a right-handed person’s world; let us be your pair of ambidextrous scissors.

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Relationship Anarchy: Why its Fundamentals May Surprise You
Relationship Anarchy: Why its Fundamentals May Surprise You

Most of us conjure up images of violence, chaos and apocalyptic disarray when we hear the word anarchy. Relationship Anarchy is the polar opposite.

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When Your Truth Causes Them Pain
When Your Truth Causes Them Pain

There is a lot of talk about being authentic and living in our truth, and not a lot of discussion about the cost of authenticity. If you are on the journey to live in alignment with who you are, and the people around you are confused or hurting, Jacqueline offers you four lessons from her work.

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Being an Ethically Non-Monogamous Parent
Being an Ethically Non-Monogamous Parent

How do you handle the curiosity, questions, and personalities that come with this non-traditional version of “the talk”?

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Modern Dating

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30 Date Night Ideas That Will Transform Your Relationship(s)
30 Date Night Ideas That Will Transform Your Relationship(s)

This is the most comprehensive date night guide you will ever find! We share 30 date night (and day and weekend) ideas that have the power to transform your relationship(s) by adding connection, play, romance, variety, and eroticism.

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Re-Entering the Dating Pool with a New Set of Standards
Re-Entering the Dating Pool with a New Set of Standards

What we’ve traditionally been taught about standards and what we should be looking for is primarily inherited and pretty messed up. Here are the three steps that you can take to transform your “dating checklist” into a more meaningful dating tool.

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