Effy and Jacqueline explore the love-at-first-sight myth and try to parse apart the difference between attachment wound activation and attraction (and even arousal) - which can all feel confusingly similar to the nervous system when we meet a potential new partner if there’s unaddressed trauma.
Read MoreAre there different modes to the same relationships? Can feeling safe, settled and comfy get in the way of passion and the erotic? How do we know what type of connection is available in any given relationship?
Read MoreEffy and Jacqueline invite journalist and author Amy Gahran to the show to discuss the relationship escalator, what it looks like to get off it or opt out of it in the first place, solo polyamory, voluntary singledom, couple’s privilege and its flip side, singleism.
Read MoreWhat does it mean to put effort into relationships? Does one person always show up more than the other? Is relationship maths as simple as 50+50 makes 100%?
Read MoreEffy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Justin Mogilski about his international research on the best and the worst strategies for navigating consensually non-monogamous relationships.
Read MoreEffy and Jacqueline do a coaching session to address the argument patterns Jackie and her partner find themselves in over and over again. After a long text exchange in the middle of the night after one of those arguments, Effy and Jacqueline decide to unpack how Jackie and her partner fight in a recorded coaching session in the hopes that they can bring insight to everyone stuck in their own argument patterns.
Read MoreEffy and Jacqueline go on a quest to figure out why we step out of integrity in our relationships with others and ourselves and what we can do to prevent those transgressions by exploring the hot-cold empathy gap coined by George Loewenstein, a psychologist and economist at Carnegie Mellon University.
Read MoreAll mental health providers are not equal. That doesn't mean good or bad, but simply different training, specialties, and personalities. In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla sit down with Dr. Thomas Whitfield to discuss the best way to find a therapist for your sexual and mental health needs.
Read MoreThis week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are introducing Fox Tales: Stories of lives that challenge the status quo. They are bringing you the tale of Lucy Sweetkill, pro Dom and BDSM life coach, and Nick, her partner of 5 years.
Read MoreThis week Effy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that monogamous relationships have to be one-size-fits-all.
Read MoreEffy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that all relationship transitions end in shouting matches and slamming doors. They take a deep dive into conscious uncoupling and talk about what it takes to exit a relationship with dignity and respect.
Read MoreEffy and Jacqueline sit down to work out what is the right maths when it comes to division of effort put into a relationship.
Read MoreIn this throwback episode, Effy and Jackie talk about ways to navigate holidays when you are managing multiple relationships in your life. They share tips on how to schedule, have conversations, and make sure everyone feels loved and cared for. And how to make amends if it all ends up in a cluster f**k.
Read MoreEffy and Jackie hang with sound healing therapist, meditation facilitator, and Somatic Experiencing practitioner Rida Kıraşı to talk about how we can heal trauma, cultivate a sense of safety, and learn to regulate our emotions through the soma with the use of sound, breath, meditation and embodiment practices.
Read MoreEffy and Jacqueline jump on the airwaves to challenge the idea that passivity is the same as peace. They discuss what Esther Perel calls stable ambiguity or what Effy calls relationship purgatory where people remain in a holding pattern in relationships where things are undefined, lines are blurred, and desires go unsaid even though they are soaking in dissatisfaction, disharmony, and disconnection.
Read MoreIn this Halloween Special episode, Effy and Jacqueline create a house of horrors made up of their relationship fears. From negative body image to feeling stuck on a relationship escalator, they imagine a terrifying room after a terrifying room of the gruesomest, the creepiest, and the most disturbing contraptions that represent their deepest dreads.
Read MoreOn this week’s show Effy and Jackie were joined by Eri Kardos, the author of Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship.
Read MoreEffy and Jacqueline return from their Summer hiatus and kick off our Fall programming by talking about the impact of global current affairs, the hyper-fast news cycle of apocalyptic headlines, and the still restrictive new normal on our nervous system and consequently our relationships.
Read MoreEffy and Jacqueline are joined by Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, public speaker, and trauma and relationship expert, and the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy to discuss attachment styles and trauma and how they impact our relationship structures and sexuality.
Read MoreEffy and Jacqueline discuss how to balance the comfort of being rooted and settled with the desire for variety and passion but not before they catch up on crushes, books, family, and city life vs country.
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